Today i was hanging out with the other new teachers in the building at an invigorating new teacher training. yeah. Really though it wasn't as painful as it seems. Anyway, to the point. They were talking an awful lot about marriage since two of them had only been married for a month or two, another for a smidge over a year and yet another just got engaged this weekend. i know! total romantic cheese going on in our school! which could consequently be the most conservative school EVER. at any rate they were talking about gaining weight after getting married and i told them it was all part of the plan that you get fat and happy. duh. it got brought up that i was married at one point and they of course were confused because who gets divorced by my age? so i briefly told them about the old man and i and of course they asked if i was going to marry him and of course i gave my standard answer: no. they were a little confused...
so here's the deal with my view on marriage. it's great. really my parents have an amazing marriage. i definitely believe in the sanctity of marriage and the commitment involved. so why am i not getting married? well first of all the would be groom is not religious so he sees no point in participating in a religious ceremony when it would be meaningless to him. less meaningful then say being committed to each other on our own terms. which, yay good point for him! i always say i would never have a baby with an ugly man but luckily i got a brainy one, too.
me on the other hand, because i would not have a religious marriage then it would be more of a marriage for the state, a governmental union so to speak. so then i would need to honor the state of marriage within my state and country. and i completely DO NOT. this would be the time that i would get on mysoapbox and say why i think this way but the long and short of is that with divorce sky high and people trying to control who other people marry it completely goes against what i believe marriage should be.
hyporcite you cry? well yes and no. yes, i am divorced and though it let us grow in ways that we weren't growing at the time, it was the easy way out and i don't agree with it. marriage is one thing: commitment. end of story. and commitment is hard work. anyone can quit, the committed never do, they may want to, but they don't. marriage should be legal based on the level of commitment and work ethic, not on sexual preference. the rate of divorce in this country has ruined the sanctity of marriage long, long ago and allowing homosexuals to get married could only be a good move on the part of the country.
so, in short i will not be getting married. unless, and i hope this is true, when i'm old and the people in this country have come to their senses, it finally becomes legalized in every state. then i will be running to the courthouse with the rest of 'em, walker and all. i just hope that it does happen in my life time. i don't want my kids to be ashamed of the era that i grew up in, that my generation were such biggots that they took the rights of people from them.
